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fights....?

my boyfriend and I have been together for almost a year now and we fight over the dumbest things almost every day. He says that i assume a lot and that I b*tch a lot and i do notice that i b*tch a lot after were done fighting but me myself i feel like its my fault when we start the fights but sometimes it feels like he doesnt put in as much effort as he use to. We have the same friends and i like hanging out with them but we hang out with them almost everynight. I think this is just hard for me because we use to be together everyday 24/7 before he moved out of his house. I love him and i try so hard to not fight we'll be good for like 3 days and then we'll start fighting again..I hate fighting with him, it hurts soo much. what can i do to put our relationship on the right track again??...help please!!

Public Comments

1. You have to realize that you cannot sweat the small stuff. And, as long has you are still above ground, it is all small stuff.
2. Learn to choose your battles. If it is just a petty issue, stop feeling like you have to respond to everything. At this point in your relationship I'm sure the two of you know how to push each others' buttons, just start thinking before you react all the time. Ask yourself if it's really worth it, you know the direction it will go . Good luck.
3. I can understand where you are coming from,relationships are hard work. And it takes both people to keep it together. Yeah, you are going to think the fault i yours about the fight,i do the same thing, and always AFTER the argument,not before, all i can say is to think before you speak the words you want to say.im sure u love him and dont want to lose him, but eventually what will end up happening is one of you will get tired of the fights and push the other away,no one likes fighting,the whole point in being in a relationship with someone is because u enjoy being with them. Keep ya cool. But then on the other side, maybe you dont need to be together if you argue so much, people grow apart and u move on, itll be hard but its life and u will meet someone else. Best of luck to ya.