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What do you think about sons getting in fist fights with their fathers?

I hear these stories about guys fighting their dads alot as a friend to people and as a lifecoach. I can see if the father was abusing the mother or had left them when the son was young and the son had built up anger towards the father as being more in the right but not exactly when they argue and let it escalate that far. So who's in the right and who's in the wrong. Should the adult have more maturity and not resort to fighting? Your thoughts

Public Comments

1. Sometimes it is not the father that throws the first punch. I know some dads just back off. Some can't so they punch back. I think the child that throws the first punch most likely has most of the anger. Some kids think that at sometime in their life they should be able to whip the ole man. So they try and most of the time they lose. It seems it not only happens in males but female too. Would you stand up and let your child beat up on you?
2. It dosnt matter whos fault it is.It just should not happen at all.
3. well the issue is much wider than that....in general when is it okay for people to punch each other? Actually, nowadays it would be a relief it people stuck to this sort of mild conflict...the incidence of much more serious injuries from knives, guns and other weapons is a real concern. It is not possible to make a general statement like "fathers are always wrong" in fisticuffs between father and son. The circumstances will point towards which party is the aggressor and which is the aggrieved one. It is quite possible for an aggressor (son or father) to goad the other party to the point when anger spills over and punches are thrown...ie the puncher in such a situation may not be the 'guilty' one. In other situations a father may simply be continuing a situation of abuse and it may be a good sign that the child is finally in a position of being able to defend himself. Then again it may be that a parent is now ageing and becoming less physically competent and the child is abusing the parent. This seems cruel and unfair...but each situation needs to be judged on its own merits.
4. Any son that gets into a fist fight with his father is being disrespectful. There is never a good reason for it. Even if the father is abusive. The son may intervene but never be disrespectful. I have been bigger and stronger than my father since I was 17 (that was a long time ago). I have never raised a hand to him and never will.